Carla Duff

  • commented on Damn the Torpedoes 2017-10-25 08:45:15 -0700
    Love, love, love this

  • commented on Appreciating Death 2017-01-10 17:17:47 -0800
    Mike, this post was a difficult read for me. CF is a mother f*cker. A life stealer. But, like you, I am better able to handle things because I watched Jared live thru 2 lung transplants to only die from a rare bacteria. What a blessing you are to your friend. How wonderful that you can help her. Answer her questions and give her so much support. Megan would be proud.

  • commented on Making Lemonade out of Death 2016-11-08 17:24:23 -0800
    Jared would have acute rejection after his lung transplant and be on IV steroids for 3 days. This treatment made him almost impossible to live with. So I would tell people, if he went missing not to check the pond. After he died, I said well shit, I guess we should check the pond. And I will often say things like he had the nerve to die or if you really has an opinion he can come back and tell me what it is. Some people think it’s morbid, but it’s my way of coping.

    BTW…Love the Grim Reaper comment.

  • commented on Your Death Is a Pain In the Ass 2016-08-07 09:04:51 -0700
    Ok, I can so relate to this. I yell at Jared all the time for having the nerve to die! I usually start with if you hadn’t died… Yesterday there was a problem with the cable and WiFi and no natter what I did I couldn’t fix it. And then I am yelling at Jared because if he were here it would have been fixed. By instead I am cussing and yelling and in a shitty mood. You’re right…their deaths are a pan in the ass!

  • commented on A Letter to My Younger Self 2016-06-12 10:41:15 -0700
    I LOVE this. Wish someone had written me a letter like this.

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  • commented on A Letter from Before, and Beyond 2016-05-03 17:23:45 -0700
    Such an emotional piece of treasure. My husband wrote a letter to Steven when he was waiting for his second lung transplant. In it, Jared told all about his childhood and about his hopes and dreams for Steven. Like you, I have not given it to Steven but have it safely stored away for when he is older.

  • commented on Broken Heart Exchange 2016-04-25 17:14:17 -0700
    I can’t wait for your workshop. You are brave and courageous to be stepping out and pouring your heart and soul in the project. Yes, no one wants to be a member of our club but what would we do without each other?

  • commented on Growing Me Up 2016-04-24 17:17:03 -0700
    Sarah how beautiful! You and Shelby are so blessed to have each other. Healing each other. You are a wonderful mother figure! I wish you continued love and joy.

  • commented on Prince Died Today. And I Can't Tell You. 2016-04-22 12:50:10 -0700
    Well said. I had the same thought I have to tell Jared about Prince. And then I thought, shit I can’t tell him. If only everyone expressed their grief for family and friends like they do for celebrities.

  • commented on Passion from Pain 2016-04-10 17:04:48 -0700
    I can’t wait to participate in on of your classes.

  • commented on My Life With Grief 2016-03-31 17:37:20 -0700
    Well said! You put it perfectly into words.

  • commented on A Toast to Drew 2016-03-29 16:59:57 -0700
    What a wonderful tribute.

  • commented on A Recipe for Life after Loss 2016-03-27 17:36:44 -0700
    What a wonderful metaphor!
    Happy Easter Sarah. I’ll be thinking of you tomorrow.

  • commented on Free To Be Me 2016-03-18 14:17:28 -0700
    I LOVE camp! I NEED camp!
    I LOVE my widowed peeps. Each experience is unique.

  • commented on Wearing his Clothes 2016-02-22 17:30:02 -0800
    Love, love, love this!! I have been so afraid to touch or move any of Jared’s things because they were his and I don’t want to lose that. Thank you.

  • commented on Writers Block 2016-02-02 17:46:06 -0800
    Well said. We try so hard to embrace our grief, why shouldn’t we embrace our joy?

  • commented on Jumble 2016-01-29 17:51:24 -0800
    Makes sense to me.

  • commented on Changing of the Colors 2016-01-19 17:35:12 -0800
    I too have made changes to my home. I started with the floors and paint color and have added a fire pit outside. I think subconsciously I was trying to make the house “mine”. Thanks for helping me realize that.

  • commented on Unraveling Grief: Things I've Learned About Letting Go 2016-01-18 17:10:53 -0800
    Beautiful.